I am seeing more womxn I never thought would be like this cling to these toxic men. I admit I have stayed when I should not have but I eventually, thankfully, saw the light. I had so much therapy over the years, however. I feel like the issue now for me having kind of made it to this other side is I lose my shit when I encounter womxn who stay for the lifestyle. It’s not living at all. And i also have to say— kids know everything. So this whole idea of staying in it for the kids is also just false reality as well.

Irv Gotti… yeah I remember when he went off blasting Ashanti, making himself look like a bitter, mentally deranged fool. She is a beautiful womxn. I like following her IG to see she’s still out there rockin. Her body looks better than it did back in the day. And you’re right. She seems at peace.

To be real. POC men and womxn who hang their esteem on whether they’re married or not in life instead of emotionally and spiritually healthy and well, that’s this white supremacist mentality. Colonized mentality.

One of my ex fiancés moms tried to convince me to marry her son to “make it right with god.” I was like, whose god? This colonized mindset is just ruining so much potential for wholeness.