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On Parenting Roles and Perception Through a Gendered Lens
Dear Men. It is time to accept that equity in parenting means you don’t get a participation prize.
Why do some men and womxn still believe that being a present father makes men redeemable or rare or prize worthy?
Can you imagine if we lived with this ass backwards mentality as Womxn?
Oh. I take care of my children adequately. Therefore I am entitled to be a POS wife or partner and general scam artist in life and career, parading around with an empirical, domineering mindset like I walk on water because I shelter and clothe and spend time with my children.
What is this trash.
Men. Being a present father does not make you a prize.
It makes you adequate. Paying for stuff for your kids, spending time with them, changing diapers, getting up at 2am to feed them? Paying child support, picking up your kids from outside a 5 miles radius of your convenience every once in awhile.
Sorry buddy. You’re not a martyr.
Also why are there womxn who will literally put up with this crap and stand by these types of men who justify their piss poor behavior and half assed incompetence in relationships, jobs, work life balance, etc, because “they’re a good father and they love their kids.”
I’m sorry. Ah…. come again?
These are basic parental duties and responsibilities.
Ladies. Raise the bar to the same standard we are held to or nothing.
And men. Respectfully. Get over yourselves.
