This is such an interesting topic. I always get asked why I haven’t dated my own race. I didn’t get to be around a lot of Korean people period until adulthood. I wish I would have grown up around more Koreans and had a chance to date within my own race but I just never did. Funnily my partner has been mistaken often for being part AAPI and people tell us we do kind of look alike even though he is African American. In my younger years I definitely had phases of “not being into Asian guys” but for the most part now I look back and feel it was phases like that in which I was feeling insecure about my own identity as an AAPI. Thanks for writing. This was thought provoking.